जाने कैसी मुलाक़ात होगी

Marriage is the final triumph of societal life. All actions in public life stem from it, reach for it, and once the task is done, are set in motion again for the next generation. Nature has, of course, wired every species to seek survival. Man, thankfully, is the only one that makes such a show of it.

But since the show is there, it gives rise to many stories and many rituals. Cultures change them with great frequency, art celebrates it in all. In India, we have the arranged marriage – where parents get a couple together, having previously satisfied themselves of the financial, societal, and emotional state of the other family. The young (would be) couple meets in a public place with a great delegation of their relatives, and is usually given a little amount of time to talk to each other and get to know the person. At least a couple such meetings happen, usually more.

It is a process subject to great ridicule but has also considerable success. Anyone reading this in the West will probably be shocked by this way of going about the business of marriage, but they will of course appreciate that things change in other parts of the world.

But even when some things change, some remain the same.


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चलो कहीं डेरा डाल लेते हैं

This year has begun with great promise: one made by me, some made by life. After all the running around and hassles of the years gone by, there looks to be signs of peace.

There is hope that we can settle down (in more ways than one), let go of the trifles of everyday living, and rest.


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Marriages Are Made In…

Hello World!

After a long while, I’ve found the time, and more importantly, the spirit, to post something here. For a considerable period of time now, things hadn’t been smooth sailing. In this time of turmoil, which, alas, hasn’t passed completely yet, there were a million things that I wanted to share here. Many questions to ask, some answers to give. But that couldn’t happen. I still hope that, soon enough, I’ll be able to address them.

This, however, is getting published. It is another email forward (the other, if you missed it, is here) and one that, perhaps, is funnier than the previous one.

These are actual ads taken from a leading matrimonial website of guys searching for brides. The grammar and spelling, are, of course, of no significant consequence  to these posters – everything is straight from the heart! I only hope you don’t forget yours at the end of this. By the way, I’ve not made any changes to the post, but have edited the bracketed comments from the original email.

Hope you laugh, and laugh bad!

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